Exploring The Domestic Violence

A week or so back I happened to watch a crime investigation program on ARY. The theme was domestic violence in the country with a variety of cases including different acts and situations. Nothing was common in any two cases but the severe results. And to my surprise almost all of them have either not been reported or if been so, not dealt properly. The only authority most of the people have approached was police who was also helpless due to numerous reasons.

Exploring the arena to satisfy my quest for inside knowledge of the society, I’ve gone through some legal concerns dealing with domestic violence and found a good deal of law. Law is there, but the causes are still undiscovered, and each case comes with a new cause. In other words it cannot be predicted, and can happen anytime, anywhere. While browsing and googling I’ve come across a statement by a Vancouver Washington lawyer that a person arrested for domestic violence might have not broken a law, but the effect the event has on family members is drastic.

This thing just made me to think about the ways with which a family can avoid domestic violence. It’s just to understand, to respect and to know each and every person in the family. Sometimes ignoring smaller things and sometimes discussing makes it easier to control the situations and keep the family happy. Many may disagree, but I’d also suggest having a legal advice if you think the matters cannot be resolved by mutual discussion and ignorance.

Though these things can help a bit managing the family matters and lessen the level of violence, but I still think that it can’t be nipped in the bud.

Let’s Don’t Become Good Public Speakers

After some days of being offline from this blog and getting some assignments done, it’s really hard to write something new. This is in fact not a writers’ block as well, but something unusual. Since I didn’t have any new thing or event to share, just some thoughts about a seminar on Public Speaking (I attended at KU during my last visit to Karachi) have surrounded me.

Some very good speakers have had their word on the topic and in a very effective way, but the one attracted most of my attention was one “Let’s don’t become Good Public Speakers’ by an honourable gentleman (I forgot his good name). The speaker gave all the tips on ‘not becoming good Public Speaker’, and it was really something that woke up the hall. I’ll just present his outlines here:

• Speak what people do not want to listen.
• Keep on speaking without a single break.
• Do not let others speak when you’re speaking.
• Do not look at people (do not maintain eye contact).
• It’s better if you’ve a written script with you and you’re reading.
• The best way is that you’re not audible.
• Do not answer to people’s questions.

This was all what made me to laugh at that time, but later I realized how creatively the guy has mentioned the things most of us do not care about. I’ve also written something similar on my writing blog some days back, but this one is really worth considering.

So if you don’t want to become a good public speaker, please do follow the guidelines listed above.

Time Management: The Wasters’ And Savers’ Styles

Time is equally important in an organizational set up as it is in day-to-day life. It cannot be retrieved if spent or wasted once, so better is to spend it in more effective way. Whether it’s a professional business or work environment or a casual social or house hold gathering, ensuring things to be done within a particular time frame not only helps to maintain an order but also to get rid of various tensions. It is, however, the concern of prime importance to identify what are the things that actually waste time and what save. Being in the fastest time ever it is a bit difficult to find out all such activities, so in order to stop wasting time let’s start from the general activities of time wasters and savers.

Taking a start from wasters, here are some activities, which almost all of them do:

• Thinking about something without coming up to a decision.
• Worrying
• Implementation without analysis
• Starting many tasks at the same time without identifying the importance of each
• Unanticipated interruptions (starting doing something else during an important task).
• Procrastinating.
• Unrealistic Time estimates.
• Poor Crisis management.
• Poor Planning
• Poor Organization.
• Ineffective meetings (lack of effective communication)
• Doing urgent rather than important tasks.
• Failing to delegate.
• Lacking priorities, standards, policies, and procedures.

On the other hand the time savers do all what that wasters do not and they also do not do what wasters do, all they do is:

• Manage the process of decision-making, not the decisions.
• Concentrate on doing only one task at a time.
• Set daily, short-term, mid-term, and long-term priorities.
• Ensure effective communication.
• Throwing unneeded things away.
• Set deadlines and attempt to meet the same.
• Do not waste others’ time.
• Ensure the purpose of meetings, projects etc.
• Maintain calendars and abide by them.
• Know when to pause and when to restart.
• Maintain good delegation.
• Keep simplicity in the processes.
• Use checklists and To-Do lists.

What An Employer Is Looking In You?

The present corporate culture and the growth of industries brought some revolutionary changes in the work description and thus the appearance of jobs also took evolutionary stages. This has resulted in totally different trends in the job specifications. Employers are seeking individuals with maximum capabilities to handle the physical and behavioral work elements. Thus the contemporary job culture requires some specific traits and qualities in candidate. These qualities and traits may vary in accordance with the job specifications in different sectors, but in general these are same. They may be as follows:

Professional attitude

Willingness to work and learn

Interest in the field

Interest in the company

Reasonable attitude towards the compensation

Integrity and sincerity

Confidence

Determination

Appearance

Expression power

Organization and Management

Experience

Responsiveness

Force of drive

Sensitivity

Balanced personality

Good communication skills

Initiative

Not everyone possesses all these traits, but some of them. It is, however, none too difficult to develop these traits through some external force, i.e. making and effort yourself. The more skills and traits you have the more chances of success are there for you.

The organizations actually look for their productivity first, and the traits mentioned above all result in the organizational productivity. That is what the reason organizations look for these traits in a single individual. By developing all these traits in you, you are not only letting the organization grow great guns but also develop the horizons of excellence for yourself. Having these traits developed in you, your skills get polished and your professional profile gets a boost.

The point to ponder in this regard is that how to develop these characteristics within yourself. This development is just a few steps away from you. Keep an Argus eye on surroundings, be updated with the latest trends in your field, keep on reviewing the industry of your concern, take good car of your health, keep alternative plans with you, respect the others’ views, explore new opportunities of learning, develop yourself to face all sort of challenges. By doing a little effort in this way you can become one employers looking for, so why not to give it a try.

Self Audit, The Success Tool

Auditing yourself is not a financial examination of your account here; instead it’s the examination of your own behaviors and the comparison of the same with the normal behaviors. Before applying for a specific job, if one audits himself, it’s nothing less than planned and organized utilization of one’s abilities and potentials. Self Audit gives you the better understanding of yourself, helping you to trace and rate your abilities, strengths, weaknesses, desires, aspirations, attitudes, likes and dislikes.

As a result of such an audit, you learn to construct a balance sheet of your own balancing your assets (abilities) and liabilities (duties).
In order to have a self audit, first classify your qualities in three different categories, i.e. physical traits, intelligence traits and personality traits. Each of these traits of your may have some similarities and some differences from the general masses. The similarities which are present in the majority of the masses are known as general behavior, and the exceptions make you unique. These exceptions can either be positive or negative. In case of a positive exception individual is remarked with plus points while negative exceptions devalue your reputation.

The relation of self audit and job is a direct one. One ought not to apply for a job if it doesn’t match with the physical, intelligence and or personality traits. And in other case one if wants to have a particular job which doesn’t match with his traits, he should try to fit his traits in accordance with the job requirements. For instance, some physical traits like height and build etc specify some particular jobs, intelligence in its various forms, i.e. musical, verbal mathematical intelligence etc plays key role in determining one’s career.

Keeping the personality in view and concentrating on likes and dislikes if one is fond of outing and cannot work while sitting on a single desk for long; he should opt for some out door job. Similarly if one is blessed with leadership and management capabilities he should make his best in management related career.

Self audit is a key role in determining your success in the career of your choice and the opportunities you need to avail, so don’t forget to have it before planning to pursue a career.